Saturday, 13 January 2018

Daddyz are meant to be Admired - Always!

Nothing seems more special when it comes to "Him". We have mostly talked about Mothers and Motherhood but the truth is, your Mother & Father were born as your parents at the same time, and they are ageless. Their love is one constant emotion in everyone's life. May be because, mothers' love is talked about the most that's why, it seems unrealistically special when it comes to daddys'.
Sometimes, on a weekend day, when your life doesn't need a set routine, you are so engrossed in the Chapters of your Life that, neither you want to watch your favorite series, nor you wish to hang out. It was my dad's birthday few weeks ago, and I couldn't make my presence since, it was a weekday, and the unexpected workload showered like it always does when you least expect it, in-fact when you don't demand it at all. The day passed like any other busy day, and I could just make a call to my dad whom, I supposedly, love the most. Though, I made-up the loss on the following weekend but, it can never be compared to the celebrations done on the day of occasion itself. I feel nostalgic over the things which my dad has ever done, and still does for me. 

You do get occupied once, you are married. Sometimes, you even ignore calling your parents but, they don't. I remember, when I got married 3.5 years ago, I got so busy with my new family that, I hardly called them. There was a time when, I actually felt that I get to talk to Mom but, I hadn't heard dad for a long time. Then, you do every little thing to do away with your guilt. When I gave him the first call post my marriage, I realized, I was not even aware about his everyday routine. He had joined a health center, and used to wake-up @6 every morning. I was happy about him but, I felt sad that how did I not know about him. So, I started calling him more frequently, and it settled my guilt to some extent. 

True, that parents are loved the most but, there is one more truth that, we take them "for-granted" the most as well. We disconnect their call without answering, believing that they will understand that we are busy but, they don't disconnect our's when they are busy. Infact, we even forget to call them back sometimes but, they don't if they have missed our call by chance. 


I remember, during my university exams, if my mom used to ask me for tea/coffee during late night studies; my dad used to come and check, after every 30-45 minutes, if I was still studying. He never asked me to take a break and go to sleep. I know, it was his dream to seem me independent one day, and he looked the happiest when I had got my professional degree.  He still encourages me for every little assignment I take-up. Sometimes, when I have to go far for work, it seems difficult at first which I feel, is evident with a 1.5 year old toddler. But, I always get to manage my strength which is inculcated in me, by my dad. 



Today, I realize; the warmth & care we have, has surely been inherited from our Mothers' but, our Dads' have played a very special role in building us they way, we are. 

Whenever, my husband doesn't fulfill any of our daughter's wish, for her good, I can relate it to the times when I felt that, dad was insensitive towards me. Whenever, my husband wonders how do I not skip any dangerous ride in a theme park, I just smile! It is my dad who always pushed not to look away from difficulties. He has built my innerself everytime in one or, the other way.




The only good thing I see in myself which is built-in me by myself is; Nothing!
The only good thing, he forgot to teach me while raising me up is; Nothing!


Dear Daddy, you got me married to my "Prince" but, you'll always be my "King"!



PS: I Love you, Dad! 





Saturday, 2 December 2017

Did Niharika cry it out or not? - Short Story

Hello Readers, 

Hope you are liking my Blog! Well, this post narrates a series of emotional experiences shared by a close friend, and I am genuinely touched with her Story. I have changed the Names since, she wanted to keep her identity hidden. So... Let's find out if Niharika cried it out or not...


Saying "yes" to mom-dad, for marriage, was a big deal for Niharika. They always asked her if she liked someone but, she could just say, "I don't want to get married at present", and they used to remain silent for another couple of days. 

Days & Months passed...

While Niharika's parents were eagerly waiting for her approval, she was getting even more worried about them. She wondered how her parents will manage once, she leaves the house forever since, she is the only one whom they look up to, after her elder sister got married far away in Seattle, USA.

"Should I start responding?", Niharika's father used to ask her, everytime he got a good marriage proposal for her. It's our "Mom" to whom we generally look up to but, she was more connected to her father, emotionally. So, there were times when he questioned her in those "father-daughter special bond" ways, and she always replied in a comforting tone, "Dad, I'll tell you when I'm ready.". Deep down in her heart she knew, it was not comforting for him at all.




One day, you have to get married! This thought haunted her all this while but, she knew how harsh this ritual of "getting married" will prove for her parents since, they will just be on their own after her marriage.

One thing, which she couldn't deny was, She had turned 29. Moreover, the fact that she's not ready to get married even at the age of 29, was troubling her parents more than anything else. 




We have seen people, especially in India, getting worried for their children getting married at the right age. But, will someone please tell me, what's the right age for getting married? It's different for everyone. On one hand, parents are actually concerned about the questions which people around them ask when, there is someone unmarried in the family who has attained the so-called minimum age for marriage, and on the other hand, these unmarried innocent children are, either not ready mentally, or are concerned about issues like Niharika was.

So, one fine day, she told her dad that she is ready to tie The Wedding Knot, and that he can start looking for suitable matches. Her dad looked radiant that day, and he must have shared this Big News with her Mom since, she was very cheerful the same day in evening.

Niharika was happy with the fact, that she was the reason behind their smiles today but, couldn't express the pain in her heart. She just cried in her quilt that night, thinking that she has finally decided to part with them... she just hoped to be happy post marriage so that, she doesn't prove to be a trouble for them in future.


But, things changed...

As she saw her parents' enthusiasm over her marriage, she was content that she could give them that sense of happiness. She started liking the conversations they had regarding the marriage proposals.

Finally, they found the match and Niharika got engaged after few informal meetings with Nishant. Courtship period has always been the Golden Journey for almost everyone. She was also enjoying being the center of attention. Nishant sounded wise and promising. So, Niharika was all set to start her new life with him. 

She was enough involved in the preparations for her upcoming life, and her parents' happiness. Niharika wanted to prove herself efficient enough like her Mom, and was expecting Nishant to be as supportive as her father. Indeed, we always see our parents as a benchmark for perfection!




The D-day arrived! Niharika's only sister and brother-in-law had come all the way from Seattle. Niharika was also living her day to the fullest, the only concern she had was; whether she'll cry it out or not! It's kind of a ritual or you can say a very obvious emotion you get to see at an Indian Wedding; Tears rolling down the bride's cheeks at the Vidaai Ceremony, and making the immediate family cry along. 

Niharika felt nervous while taking Pheras. She was happy that she was getting married but, she was wondering if she is going to be that exception who didn't cry while parting with her parents. Time was flying, and she couldn't do anything. The look on her parents' faces, was making her feel weak on her knees... She wanted to hug them right away, she wanted to tell them how much she loved them, she wanted to express how she hated this ritual, and that she wanted to cry but, She didn't.






The moment finally came when she had to leave her parents behind, like every other girl, and nurture her own family. Her heart felt heavy, it's just that her tears didn't roll down. Everyone present at the Ceremony hugged and blessed her. She patted her mother's back and whispered, "Don't worry Mom, I'll be fine", and turned around fearing she would lose it. Unlike earlier, she feared if she starts crying now, she won't be able to hold herself. 

And...

As soon as, she was preparing to sit in the backseat of the car someone held her shoulder from behind. Niharika knew she was not strong enough to face this. She knew who it was! As, she turned around, and saw her dad crying... She lost it!

She hugged him, and cried it all out!




PS: Not all the people whom we leave behind, lose their significance in our lives! Some of them are loved like... Forever!

Saturday, 16 September 2017

The Hope - Brings "The Reds" Not "The Blues"!

The little girl was crying out that she is missing her daddy who has gone out of town for work. But, as soon as her mother asked to accompany her to super market to get few of her daddy's favorite snacks, she was all excited like never before and her mother was able to manage her for another few days until her daddy came back.




Sunday, 10 September 2017

LIEBSTER AWARD 2017: Finally an Achievement as a Blogger!


Hello Readers,

It's always like an another achievement to get your work recognized; first achievement is your work itself.

Monday, 4 September 2017

Dostana! #FriendshipGoals #LongDistances #UnderstandingistheEssence #PagalpantibhiZarurihai

So this one is again on Demand... from two very own Idiots!


There is no one who doesn't have any friends. Some find friends in their cousins while others find those true faces in outside world. It is not the game of blood; but connection. One common thing is, these friendships become inevitable.

Tuesday, 11 July 2017

Drive and Let Drive! #womendiaries

I was driving today when, at the end of a narrow road, when I was all ready to take a right turn through service lane, an another car came before mine. Neither, there was a way that it could pass across my car nor it had any other vehicle behind so, I requested the driver (who was unfortunately a male), to take his car reverse so that I could take the desired right turn, and he could also go ahead on his way.

Well... I'm still upset with what happened thereafter!

Monday, 29 May 2017

A Marriage is made in Heaven but doesn't bring Ego along! (Part-2)

Recap: http://www.tellingunsaid.com/2017/05/a-marriage-is-made-in-heaven-but-doesnt.html


Whenever I observe problems in a marriage, I wonder how difficult it would be for the couple involved. Even though, arguments are part & parcel of a marriage, I have never been able to overcome the grief I feel around me whenever, I and my husband have faced this.